It's not a field, I think, for people who need to have success every day: if you can't live with a nightly sort of disaster, you should get out. I wouldn't describe myself as lacking in confidence, but I would just say that the ghosts you chase you never catch.
I only have two rules for my newly born daughter: she will dress well and never have sex.
Where women are concerned, the rule is never to go out with anyone better dressed than you.